What to do if someone you know has been raped

Most of us are unaware of the reality of rape until it happens to us or someone close.

If a woman in your life has been raped it is important that you believe and support her. Accept what she says.

You may feel angry or violent at the rapist especially if it is someone you know. But the woman’s needs are paramount. She will be struggling to come to terms with what has happened to her. She must decide what she wants to do. A violent response by you will only add to her trauma.

Allow her the choice to talk or stay silent. The details of the rape may be too difficult and degrading to explain to a loved one. Encourage her to contact our SAFE service on the number below because sometimes it is easier to speak to a stranger. This is not a reflection on your relationship. Do not see this as a failure on the part of either of you.

The decision to report to the police must be taken by the woman. Do not try and force her to go or dissuade her from going in an attempt to protect her.

The most important thing you can do it to let her know that you will support her and encourage her to seek help from SAFE Link.

Contact SAFE Link on 0333 323 1543

Or email [email protected]